Relationships are difficult. When one person has a drinking problem, this difficulty is magnified. Drinking has two main effects on relationships: it can lead to excessive fighting and denial of the problem. In this piece, we’ll talk about the bad effects, suggest ways to fix them, and tell you how to help a person get sober.
Effects of drinking on relationships
Excessive fighting and denial of the problem. Drinking can lead to fights, which will make you feel upset and angry. This won’t go away because the drinking does not cause it but gets in the way of better communication. Most couples can overcome drinking-related problems, but if you think the other person drinks excessively or is trying to change problem behavior, help is needed. The more they drink, the harder it gets for your partner to change. The bad side of drinking can affect you too, but you can do your part to help the other person and yourself.
Difficulty dealing with emotions. When one person drinks, they often avoid dealing with anger, fear, or sadness. This is because alcohol makes the drinker feel better for a short time and masks emotions. This increases the risk of emotional problems like depression in both partners. It’s important to realize that these emotional problems are not caused by alcohol but by avoiding them when they are present in relationships. These are not problems that you should try to fix.
Relapse to excessive drinking. Suppose a person has a history of problems with alcohol that were never fully treated. In that case, they are at higher risk for relapsing if you try to improve the relationship without treatment. You should encourage your partner to go to treatment.
How To Fix The Alcoholic Relationship Problem
The first step is to recognize the problem. Suppose you suspect that your partner drinks regularly, talk about it, and get help. If they have been drinking a lot, stop this now. Alcoholism affects your relationship, and you don’t want to worsen it. Of course, as partners, you can work together to overcome problems, but if one of you has problems with alcohol, then this may not be possible. The important thing is that both of you are willing to get treatment for alcohol dependence.
Fix problems before they start. If there is something in the relationship causing problems, work together to find a way to fix it before you have a fight or two. This is easier to do than it seems because both of you have many things in common that bring you together and keep the relationship going despite problems (e.g., being in love, having a child together). Fix things that cause fighting first, and then continue working on other things that you’re not happy about.
Take responsibility for your problems. If you drink too much, this leads to problems in the relationship that you are responsible for fixing. The same thing goes for other problems like fighting. This means that you need to be ready to deal with your problems before fixing the relationship’s problems.
Talk about it. If the problem is an addiction, talk about it like an addiction (e.g., alcohol, drugs, or spending money). The goal is to stop the behavior, not deal with feelings associated with the addiction. It’s important to be as honest and open as possible. Try not to argue or defend yourself when you know you’re wrong. If a person has an addiction problem and still denies it, you should encourage them to see a doctor who can test for an addiction problem. If this is done, it will at least be easier for both of you to get help for the problem without fighting about it.
How To Help Your Partner Get Sober in the Relationship
Don’t try to fix others. If your partner has a drinking problem, don’t fix them. This won’t work and will only lead to fights. Also, don’t tell the other person what their problem is if they haven’t accepted it or haven’t admitted it (the same goes for family and friends). This means that each person should seek help from a doctor (this is often harder for couples than they think). Also, Support your partner in getting treatment. This involves realizing that their problem is a disease and cannot be fixed by willpower. The goal is to help the person stop drinking and work on emotional problems that exist in the relationship.
It’s also important for both partners to realize that this process may take some time, meaning months or even years of hard work. In conclusion, don’t let one person drink too much and then fix it by blaming the other person. This will only make the problem worse. If one person is drinking too much, they can get help, but you can’t fix the problem alone. All of you must get help at the same time to solve it correctly. In addition, you can’t expect that a person who drinks too much will stop or that your relationship will improve if they don’t stop drinking or go to treatment. If you need to talk to a professional, Our counselors are available 24 hours a day. Call 833-820-2922.